WHY, WHAT, WHOM, HOW? Do you remember your English class? Grappling with the application and context of these words?
As adults we ask ourselves the WH questions especially when we need to make major decisions. What contributes to the answers that form the decisions, is a whole different kettle of fish. A recent ‘sacrilegious’ (for some atleast) conversation with a colleague prompted these thoughts again.
‘I’d rather have a man, than be alone.’
These words sparked such a hurt in my heart that I battled with this post. It’s a sensitive issue but I’ll bite at it anyway and hope not to choke.
WHY do women tolerate BS? You hear all the funny stories, of a man did this, or that, and how he’s got such a ‘good’ wife; because she stood by him and put up with his indiscretions, and poor decisions, and she’s a ‘good’ wife?!
I’m not saying women we don’t have our own madness, so am putting this out for both male and female to answer. WHY OH WHY do we tolerate things that makes us unhappy? Makes us feel less than who we are, ought to be? Please don’t get me wrong, I recognize the place of forgiveness, and tolerance, but…
‘You’re getting on in age, you need to find a man and settle down.’
WHO pray tell, decides WHAT getting on in age means? I’ve heard and know that age is nothing but a number. WHAT then is this number that decides WHEN things should be done? This number that wasn’t in God’s Creation Handbook? Please give me directions to WHERE I can find this man?WHAT gives WHEN a woman is found of a man? Does she suddenly become whole? Better than the essence of WHAT she carried all along? Does this Man give expression to the gifting’s and achievements attained and yet to be? Big Laugh of the century, WHAT says, that any one ‘settles’ down WHEN they get married? Does lightning strike at the altar? Society shows me differently. Men and women alike are getting their groove on, in and outside the confines of marriage!
‘You’re so pretty, How are you Single?’
Big Laugh! If I had a nickel for every time! HOW can you expect sustained companionship to be based on something so transient as looks?!
This Golden life that I’ve been called to live, will be lived, not based on what society in all its confused cultural, and limited wisdom dictates but based on WHAT, AND HOW the originator of the life decides!
Wanna get in on this? Share your WH questions, that gives you pause, 2nd and 3rd re-thinks!
Golden Girl, Golden God!