Tuesday 17 November 2015

Can Trust be Rebuilt?

When you tell you son that power is going to be restored in time for him to watch his favourite show, and then it isn't. Some small part of that child like faith in "Mummy said" is shattered.
When you promise to get a gift, a beloved snack on your way back from work, and then you can't. The eyes opened wide in anticipation, as he asks, "Mummy where is it?" And before the "Am sorry baby" is completed, the crestfallen look lets you know  another piece has  fallen  off and gone crashing down. 
It's easy for an overworked parent, living in Nigeria, for these "Little" incidences can become the norm, till they no longer are expectant when you promise. Such that when you do deliver, its a surprise! That's wrong. I remember how it felt as a child. I no how it feels as an adult. Disappointments still cut deep. Slowly and surely, the mindset is formed. "She doesn't really mean it" "I'd rather not hope, than get hurt" "I've trusted and trusted you, till am trussed out!"
Once this point is reached, can you ever gain that childlike wonder again? It's not about growing up. It's more the fact that statements are carelessly made. Genuine effort to make your "word your bond" isn't put in. Once this behavioural pattern is established, can one merely turn back and change? The hurts, disappointments, and pain? It all goes away in a puff, or like the tide receding from the sandy shore, does it ebb, till you forget? Or do you live in wary watchfulness waiting for the other shoe to drop.
In today's world, experiencing the simple joys of life can be difficult. Why add fear, worry, scepticism?
Am still talking about my child here... or am I?
Hmn...
Keeping it golden, Keeping it real.
D2AGE