2018 – STRATEGIES FOR CATCHING A MAN!

LOL! Even I am tickled by the title, and it’s for real! Seriously! This post was inspired by the Holy Spirit as I listened to sermon in church (I assure you I was listening to the sermon, which was totally unrelated to this post. I’m a woman after all, and a veritable Queen of multitasking!)

Going straight into the matter – Remember I told you my best friend inspired this so scripture is involved, and it’s a common one – Proverbs 18 verse 22. ‘He who finds a wife, finds a good thing’ I’ve just read that scripture before, and glossed over it. Today, my eyes were open to a hidden truth, which I’d like to share with the rest of my single sisters.

Firstly (Please follow me closely, and may your heart of understanding be opened), English tells us that a ‘wife’ is someone who is married, right? So how then can a man find an ‘unmarried woman’ and it be described that he has found ‘a good thing’ and hence the title ‘wife’ is bestowed, just upon the finding, NOT the marrying. Which therefore means, that A WIFE IS A WOMAN WHO IS GOOD. Hence for 2018, we are going to set strategies to be good, Better, BEST!

Strategy 1. Do more, Talk Less! 2018 is not the year for yakking, whining, complaining, nagging, and so forth! It is the year for DOING! What’s that dream you’ve always had? Start about it! What’s the training you’ve always wanted to do? Go on and begin! Set clear, reasonable goals, draw up a realistic plan to achieve, identify strengths and obstacles, determine ways to overcome, and please go right ahead and take that first step!

Strategy 2. Be discerning and deliberate. Develop your success grid and pass EVERYTHING through it. What does your success look and sound like? Does this location serve it? Does this outfit reflect it? Does my network bolster it? Babes, we gotta be DELIBERATE about it. No wishy-washy half efforts. Be specific and goal oriented. People and things will align.

Strategy 3. Be quick to forgive. Leave the drama and weight of bitterness and offence in 2017. For 2018 goals, you need clear head space! This is the tricky one babes, our ‘feelings’! That thing is a land mine! Here’s a quick news flash for you darlings - You are not A SLAVE TO YOUR EMOTIONS! Something that fickle shouldn’t control and dictate your (re)actions! Submit your emotions to the clear logic and dominion of your spirit! That being said, you’ve gotta feed your spirit!

Strategy 4. Get Involved! What’s the discussion around your success? Can you influence it? Can you contribute to it? Who are the drivers of your success? What relationships do you have with them? I hear you say ‘the madness and unrealism of social media is not for me’, errr, well you can go look for a rock and live under! This age, social media is the game, to play it get insulated (with the right values), not isolated!

Doggedly follow through on your goal to becoming Good (Better and BEST) and trust me, you will be found!

Declaring a Prosperous and Successful 2018 to you! Happy New Year!

Be Good, Be Golden!

D2AGE

Plaintain-ish

I was passing through the market today and decided to get some groceries. A nice, fresh healthy meal, to nourish the body and soul. For those who know me, cooking is therapeutic, and eating good food is….well simply great! I love good food! (Comment below, what’s your favourite meal to eat/cook)

So I’m examining some plantains, and another seller close by pitches in with her opinion, urging me to take another bunch other than what I had selected. The bunch she encouraged me to take were not good compared to the one I was considering. Scrawny, black, immature fingers of plantain! It was however one finger more than my choice. ‘Ah madam, you no get good eye, this plantain fine!’ perhaps it was the sun, because normally I just smile and say thank you at stuff like that. This time however, I managed to hold on to my temper, and just turned my back in a deliberate bluff. Why would you try to persuade me to accept substandard products? If you were the one buying would you select those? Or perhaps she actually thought she was doing me a favour as her selection was (a bit) more.

Back home, preparing my plantain dish, and pondering it over, I draw similarities. It’s another year end. You’re still alone. And ‘friends, well-wishers, family’ would try to ‘offer’ you advice to settle down. ‘What happened to brother so and so? How about that one that used to come around? That fine boy in your office complex nko? His bow leg isn’t too noticeable, or you can teach him to improve his oral hygiene, or (my personal favorite) he needs a woman like you to push him and build him up, to be a real man!’ Biko, Aunty, Park Well! Jesus is the chief builder. Singleness is just another part of life, same as being married is.

So this piece is to us single ladies, 10 more days, yes something can still happen, but regardless, eagerly anticipate 2018 (if Jesus tarries), for YOU. Make those goals, SMASH those goals! Go to that wedding, and have yourself a merry good time! Enjoy the season for You! If you feel like a moonlit stroll, please do so, don’t bemoan the fact that you stroll alone. If you want to go for that party, please do, ignore the comments, dazzle a smile at the looks, a man on your arm isn’t an accessory to be depressed about. Don’t settle, when you know better.

If you want an awesome dish (marriage) pick the right ingredients!

Love you, do YOU, BE GOLDEN!

D2AGE

"IT’S A DOG, NOT A CAT, A DOG CANNOT BE A CAT!"

Hi people, it’s the holidays! Hopefully it will not be spent gallivanting and stuffing my cheeks, but for more serious introspection on how I’d like to shape 2018. LOL!!! Who am I kidding?!

Anyways, let me gist you guys. Walahi these children are inspired by the Holy Spirit, either that or He just has a wacky sense of humor using our kids who should be learning from us to teach us! I vote the latter! What do YOU think?

So I was having a conversation with my precocious 8 year old over dinner, and he was (yet again, doesn’t he ever give up?!) campaigning for a dog. “Mom just a little one, a Chihuahua, that’s a house dog, and it won’t create a big mess because it’s little!”  I think to myself, you don’t know it’s the little creatures that create the most mess! Instead I respond, “Who is going to train it to know exactly where it’s going to poo and all that? I don’t want my house all stinky!”. “Okay Mom, I will train it, will you provide its own toilet?” “Well not like a real toilet, more like a box with some sand in it, that you can take out and clean out” I respond. Bobo doesn’t even let me finish … “Mom, it’s a Dog not a Cat, You’re describing a litter box, that’s what that is, a dog doesn’t use litter boxes, a dog cannot be a Cat!” My usual fluent self is silent, with no comeback, save to think O K A Y! That’s certainly telling me!

Immediately, my own classroom begins, and good friend that I am, I’m willing to share (Big Grin).

So many times we forget who we are and try to become cats. Maybe because of the economy, we try to bend and adapt our way through to become something we are not. Perhaps it’s our friends, and family, who pressure us with expectations, trying to make us cattish, not so much the dog’s that we truly are. Defining what should or shouldn’t be. Is it society, that relationship, our own insecurities? Whatever the factor, we’ve been made to conform, silence our true identities and blend into the expectations, faithfully ignoring the back pain that has arisen from carrying all that baggage of pressure, expectations, conformities, etc!

Don’t get me wrong, cats are beautiful creatures, with very defining qualities. So what’s wrong you ask? IT’S NOT WHO YOU ARE! Who are you? Yes, YOU?! There’s a place in this world for each and every one of us, with all our quirks and imperfections! You are not defined by your job, position in society, bank account, acts of heroism, family, or status. YOU ARE WHO GOD SAYS YOU ARE! Bask in the certainty that You Are! Are Created, Known and Loved by the Almighty GOD! “…and if our heart condemns us, God is greater than our heart!” (1^st John 3:20)

I return back from my very liberating reprieve, and listen avidly to his chatter! Smiling so beatifically that he stops to compliment, ask, and without waiting for my answer continues on with his chatter.

Discover, Revel, Remain True to the Golden You…

D2AGE