#BABYMAMAFAD

From Wikipedia:

Originally, the term was used by the fathers of illegitimate children to describe the mothers of their children, but the term is now in general use to describe any single mother. Since entering currency in U.S. tabloids, the terms baby mama and baby daddy have even begun to be applied to married and engaged celebrities.

The Oxford English Dictionary defines baby mama as "the mother of a man's child, who is not his wife or (in most cases) his current or exclusive partner".

Peter L. Patrick, a linguistics professor who studies Jamaican English, has said of the terms baby mother and baby father, "[they] definitely imply there is not a marriage—not even a common-law marriage, but rather that the child is an 'outside' child".

From Urban Dictionary:

The mother of your child(ren), whom you did not marry and with whom you are not currently involved.

And the example used:

Oh her? She ain't nothing to me now, girl, she just my baby mama. So, can I get your number?

Its also interesting to note that right underneath this, they had 20 words related to baby mama, and the 4th word was SLUT. (after baby daddy, baby, mama). 

From Wikipedia:

A single parent, sometimes called a solo parent, is a parent, not living with a spouse or partner, who has most of the day-to-day responsibilities in raising the child or children. A single parent is usually considered the primary caregiver, meaning the parent the children have residency with the majority of the time.

Its funny how two descriptions can mean similar things but connote two different things.

Single Mom : Meaning: A woman with child(ren) and no partner, either by choice or chance. 

Connotation: Somebody's Mother. Somewhat respectful. 

Baby Mama: Meaning: See above. 

Connotation: gum smacking, allowance demanding, drama prone, pole dancing, fame seeking, slut.

This Baby Mama fad, that sees young ladies agreeing to bear that tag, irks me. maybe because it might somehow rub its tainted connotation on other 'legitimate' single moms; or maybe because it diminishes the phenomenal strength (emotional, financial, spiritual, physical) that single mothers have to have, to go through the process of parenting. ALONE. Where did the idea come from that parenting is a breeze? Something you can casually opt into? A 'fashionable' term that could promote one's fame rating?

Please friends, female and male. Pause and reconsider before you take that leap so casually, like there's nothing to it. Listen to a (semi) old hand talk(write), Please consider the 1st 3 months of morning sickness, the swollen nose, belly, feet, swollen everything! The nine months of continuous discomfort. The pushing or cutting out of that precious baby. Drama? Ah, you ain't seen nufin! inoculation fevers, flu, colicky non-stop, all night crying, teething diarrhoea, bills, Bills, BILLS!!! Most importantly, please think of that life, you casually are taking a decision on creating.

Please practise safe sex, so you don't have to make that decision of Kill or Keep. Please love her enough to wait till you marry her, before giving your children the tag of 'outside' child. Please wait till you're mature enough (not talking about age here) before you decide you want to play 'dolly' with a real person. This ain't no reality TV fun and games, its every day, real life drama.

Consider Life, It's Golden.

D2AGE